Monday, September 23, 2019

Why I buy gifts for my ex-husband...

Today my ex-husband turns 41. By this time last year I had spent months secretly squirreling money away, organising a surprise birthday bash and spent both time and effort on gifts.

Here's the thing... I will always get him a gift. Even on fathers day when the break up was quite fresh I made sure he had a gift. 

I haven't even had so much as a 29p Card Factory Card for Mothers Day or my Birthday but I will still make sure there is something there to wrap up. And I always will.

Because it's not from me, it's from our Son.

My parents divorced when I was little and buying my Dad and Step Mum gifts was always a struggle. My sister and I used to save our dinner money to club together and get them a little gift but obviously that's not ideal. And it's not something I ever want Martin to worry about. 

When he's old enough I will ensure he has some money to choose things himself but until that day I will ensure that every Fathers day, Birthday and Christmas he will have something to give his Dad. Not because I want Peter to have a gift to unwrap but because I know Martin, kind loving boy that he is, will want something to give.

Tuesday, September 10, 2019

An Open Letter to My Ex-Husband

So today is the day I've received my Decree Absolute. I'm officially divorced and not sure how to feel.
 I know lots of women celebrate the event, go out on the drink and have a "divorce party" to mark the return of their single life but honestly, I don't think being divorced at 33 is something to celebrate. So I've decided to write this letter to my Ex even though he may never read it.

Dear Peter,

I told you before we got married that I actually didn't believe in Divorce. It was no lie. I wanted the family unit of Mammy and Daddy and children and I wanted it for life. 

I want you to know that I didn't make this decision lightly. I know it might seem like I did. The truth is I had to act quickly if I was to find the strength to go through with it this time as leaving you was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. 

I can never ever regret being married to you because of course you gave me Martin, the most wonderful gift I could ever receive. He brings me joy every single day and I am so proud of him and know that you are too.

I'm also proud of the steps we're making in co-parenting our child. I am determined to never let this affect Martin and you will never find me anything less than amicable and communicative when we talk about our gorgeous boy. 

And most importantly, I forgive you.
For each and every heartbreak I forgive you.

I also hope that someday, you can forgive me.

Your ex wife,

Katy x

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