Tuesday, September 10, 2019

An Open Letter to My Ex-Husband

So today is the day I've received my Decree Absolute. I'm officially divorced and not sure how to feel.
 I know lots of women celebrate the event, go out on the drink and have a "divorce party" to mark the return of their single life but honestly, I don't think being divorced at 33 is something to celebrate. So I've decided to write this letter to my Ex even though he may never read it.

Dear Peter,

I told you before we got married that I actually didn't believe in Divorce. It was no lie. I wanted the family unit of Mammy and Daddy and children and I wanted it for life. 

I want you to know that I didn't make this decision lightly. I know it might seem like I did. The truth is I had to act quickly if I was to find the strength to go through with it this time as leaving you was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. 

I can never ever regret being married to you because of course you gave me Martin, the most wonderful gift I could ever receive. He brings me joy every single day and I am so proud of him and know that you are too.

I'm also proud of the steps we're making in co-parenting our child. I am determined to never let this affect Martin and you will never find me anything less than amicable and communicative when we talk about our gorgeous boy. 

And most importantly, I forgive you.
For each and every heartbreak I forgive you.

I also hope that someday, you can forgive me.

Your ex wife,

Katy x


  1. What an honest and raw read. I think this is so amazing and really brave of you to post, I can only imagine how you felt writing this. You've handled this with such grace and I'm glad you're working together for Martin, the children are the most important and it's so nice to hear you are both working together. Sending you love.

    Jordanne || thelifeofaglasgowgirl.co.uk

  2. This is such a lovely letter and it sounds like you've handled this so brilliantly. My parents divorced when I was 5 and not once in the twenty years since have I ever seen them argue or heard either say a bad word about the other. I hope the two of you can keep co-parenting as you are because I'm certain Martin will appreciate it in the long run. Thanks for sharing x


  3. This is a beautifully written letter. I don't think anyone marries while planning on a divorce and I'm so sorry that things worked out that way.
    You seem to be making the best progress you can towards closure and civility for the children.
    Best wishes for the future


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